In the previous post, I wrote about changes around us that we can’t have affect on. But there are many things that we have a possibility to control in our lives, even more that we believe.
In the western cultures, the common belief is that we have to go to school, through universities or other possible schools, apply a job, work for a company, get married, have one or few kids, get a house (or an apartment), retire, take care of our grandchildren at some point, and die happily to be sure that we have done our part of this world.
Jumping out of this circle, or in some cases trying to stay out of it in the first place, is a brave decision. You may not go to schools and instead start working early age. Or you may start your own company. Instead of one career you may have many, or you may work for a while and travel for some. You may not get married, nor have children. You may retire early age. Or of course, you may do everything as most of the people and enjoy that experience very much.
The point is, whatever you end up doing in life, it should come from your heart. Of course, there are responsibilities and necessities in this life, we all need food and shelter. The rest is up to us to decide how we want to have it all.
In prison, but of my own free will. Ghost view of San Francisco from one of the most famous prisons of all time.
Alcatraz, San Francisco, California, USA / January 2011
There might come a point, when you realize you need a change, even a little one. You feel stuck with your life somehow, it can be the situation in your relationship, your job or the country or culture you’re living in. It takes courage to jump, to possibly lose some of the safety net that you are used to have. A jump is always a risk, but with the risk you multiply your possibilities to get the life you really want.
The first big jump I probably took was when I left away from home, to create my own home without my parents. Other jumps that I had courage to take, were a break from university to live one summer in Italy, a trip around the world without knowing anything of the following future, and moving to France and now to Germany just because I wanted to explore, improve the languages and find a piece of me on the way.
A jump in the Pacific Ocean, on my trip around the world.
Mount Maunganui, New Zealand / February 2011
In all these cases, I received lots of ambiguous comments. I got admiration of my ability to jump without fear. But then again, all this was taken down by the judgement of being too free and not taking care of responsibilities, such as continuing the family and having a safe future career. As me talking, I know I took risks and so far I think they were all worth taking.
It is obvious that at young age, or when you’re deciding only for yourself (so to say without marriage and/or children), it is easier to travel, to change the direction of your life. But any change of the present and future can be made at any point. It is the attitude to changes, the positive openness towards possibilities that counts the most.
Little changes can be huge in one’s life. They can lead to fighting for your own happiness, fighting against some traditions. When you jump, you create something new. You create a new piece of you. And you create new culture around you.
Lots of courage to us all, to enjoy our lives as we like!